Labor Day weekend is always bittersweet. Sweet, since it represents the approximate finish-line in The Captain’s yearly summer trip away from home. The bitter part is that it’s been a long summer (14 weeks) of being married yet solo. His truck battery has died, and the kids don’t even want to talk to him on the phone anymore – all they want to know is how many more days?I’m tired of being the sole director & disciplinarian, and dear God this Florida summer heat makes me feel cagey.
The Captain’s necessary summer absence is still difficult for me (obviously) after 21 years. It’s difficult to see the kids struggle, too. So what we all need in spades by Labor Day Weekend every year is a healthy connection to acceptance of what is. When I sometimes talk about my late-summer frustrations with my girlfriends; they roll their eyes at me and say, “I’d do anything if my husband/boyfriend would just leave for a week! And then we have a good laugh.
“There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” - William Shakespeare, “Hamlet”
A change in perspective is what I’m after when I feel snarky by Labor Day. Time to put my big girl pants on and adjust my attitude; concentrate on the lovely elements and stop telling myself a negative story about how things are. I find catching up with old friends, keeping the kids busy, and cultivating appreciation for having the remote control all to myself for the last weekend in a long time to come changes my story. Soon enough, football will be on 24/7 and the laundry, grocery shopping, and cooking will increase exponentially. In that light, my last weekend without The Captain sounds just fine by me. If you’re finding your own situation getting you down, experiment with the storyline subscription you signed up for and just unsubscribe. Then sign up for one that’s not so hard to bear.
“Be Content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.” - Lao Tzu
What are you up to this weekend? Some fun links are below for your coffee hour. Hugs — Heather
Welcome! I'm Heather. I'm a writer, mother of two boys, & wife of a traveling yacht captain; living in South Florida. Big Girl Life delivers smart conversation & inspiration for your life, where I think bigger is better.